What do I tell my stalker?

I have known some freaky people in my life. One thing that I have learned from dealing with these freaks is that if it doesn't feel right, if I am not comfortable with it, I don't need any part of it. You are right...he is playing you. He is manipulating you; he knows that you try to be considerate of his and others' feelings. Anyone that is as electronically savvy as this guy is is probably up to no good. And he probably knows what you are up to even before you do. It is time to be strong. Possibly you can start with a letter to him. It should not be lengthy as the more time that you put into it, the more he will construe that as you care about him. Tell him that you have no desire to talk to him. That you will not accept his calls; you will not open his texts and his emails; and you will not answer the door if he shows up at your place. What excuse do you need for this change in behavior. You owe him no excuse, BUT being the nice person that you are you will want to have one. This is where it is your turn to be the one in control. You can lie. Tell him that you are involved with someone. Tell him that it is long distance if he wants to know where he is. Tell him that his hours are very inconvenient to you. Tell him that you are not interested. Period. You also need to let someone else know what is going on, be it Dad, big brother, cousin.or supportive male friend. And write down this guy's name, address and phone number. Give it to someone. Maybe you do need to change your phone number. If, after you have given sufficient warning that you are not interested, and he continues to attempt to reach you, let the police in on it. If it all sounds drastic, it is. You may even want to check the offender's list for your area. There are so many red flags in your question pertaining to his behaviors that I feel safe in saying that, yes, he is a stalker. At the very least he is stalking you. It is time for him to stop. Make sure that he understands clearly what you are telling him...that it is over.